Sometimes, You Need to Tear It All Down

What does it mean to truly build a life that’s aligned with your dreams? For me, it’s meant tearing apart the very life I spent years working toward. And as wild as it sounds, it’s been one of the most challenging—and freeing—experiences of my life.

This year, I’ve used the phrase “blow up my life” more times than I can count, and for good reason. After years of grinding to become a real estate broker, team lead, and company owner, I walked away. I said goodbye to the titles, the accolades, and the identity I’d carefully crafted. It wasn’t easy, but deep down, I knew it wasn’t the right path for the life I wanted to build.

Walking away from something you’ve worked so hard for is terrifying. You start questioning everything—your worth, your decisions, even your sanity. But here’s the thing: just because something is good doesn’t mean it’s the right thing for your life.

I realized I was chasing a life that looked successful on the outside but wasn’t fulfilling on the inside. It took courage (and let’s be honest, a lot of tears) to admit that the life I’d built wasn’t the life I wanted anymore. And that’s okay—our goals and dreams are allowed to evolve.

The past 30 months have been nothing short of transformational. I’ve had three wonderful babies, gotten pregnant with my fourth, and watched my husband leave his job to manage our rental portfolio full-time. We welcomed goats to our farm and brought an au pair into our home to help navigate the beautiful chaos of raising little ones.

I opened a coffee shop with zero food and beverage experience, sold over 100 homes, designed 10+ flips, added 30 doors to our rental portfolio, fought a small-town council, and booked a TEDx event. I’ve watched a house burn down, started a podcast for entrepreneurial moms, and laid the foundation for a coaching career that aligns with my passion for helping others.

There have been days I’ve felt like I was on top of the world—and days I’ve felt like I couldn’t see the point of anything I’d done. But through it all, I’ve learned this: sometimes, the path to fulfillment isn’t about climbing higher; it’s about rebuilding from the ground up.

This year, I sacrificed comfort, profit, and sleep—not to chase more success, but to create a life that aligns with my dreams. And even though every day isn’t easy or glamorous, I can say with confidence that it’s been worth it.

There’s something deeply powerful about giving yourself permission to imagine a life that doesn’t make sense to anyone but you. To step away from what’s expected and chase what feels true.

If you’re feeling stuck or unfulfilled, I want you to pause for a moment and dream. Dream beyond the sleepless nights, the bills, and the chaos. Think about what could be. The life you want is out there—but you have to be bold enough to let go of the life you’ve outgrown.

Fulfillment doesn’t come from checking off society’s boxes. It comes from stepping into your authentic self and building a life that reflects your values, your dreams, and your heart.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just start. See the vision, set the goals, and take small, consistent steps toward the life you dream of. The journey will be messy and imperfect, but that’s where the magic happens.

At the end of the day, tearing it all down isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of building something better. Something that feels deeply, powerfully you. So, take a breath, be brave, and start dreaming big. The life you want is waiting.